Saturday, June 09, 2007

New Blog Series: A Blissful Marriage


We talk so much about the Big Day, but it's time to delve into what makes a marriage Blissful! This month, the women of Bliss will be posting the top ways to keep your marriage spicy, tips from our past Bliss brides on what makes them tick, and how to enjoy every day after the Big Day. POST your questions, thoughts, favorite quotes, gripes about your groom (or bride) and your top tips for making "from this day forward" pure Bliss! (If your tip is the creme de la creme, it might even make it in the premiere issue of Southern Wedding Style Magazine!)

"Letter Seven" written by Ranier Maria Rilke... (on my top 3 list for describing marriage...used in vows for several weddings)

It is good to love: because love is difficult. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. That is why young people, who are beginners in everything, are not yet capable of love: it is something they must learn. With their whole being, with all their forces, gathered around their solitary, anxious, upward-beating heart, they must learn to love. But learning-time is always a long, secluded time ahead and far on into life, is - ; solitude, a heightened and deepened kind of aloneness for the person who loves. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person (for what would a union be of two people who are unclarified, unfinished, and still incoherent - ?), it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances. Only in this sense, as the task of working on themselves ("to hearken and to hammer day and night"), may young people use the love that is given to them. Merging and surrendering and every kind of communion is not for them (who must still, for a long, long time, save and gather themselves); it is the ultimate, is perhaps that for which human lives are as yet barely large enough.


And on a sexier note... this link is PG-13ish, so clicker beware... you are about to enter the amazing web domain of Cosmopolitan Magazine! Yay Cosmo! This is a great article on taking a Blissful Bath... for two ; ) Enjoy.... Love in the Tub

8 comments:

Vanessa C said...

My top tip: Always listen. Sometimes your man is telling you he loves you when you may not know it. My fiance doesnt always come home with roses, but when he hugs me at the end of a long day or laughs at one of my jokes it means more than flowers. I try to listen more and appreciate the little things. It helps keep our relationship moving in the right direction. : ) I love the bathtub article by the way!

Sara Jenessa (soon to be Adams!) said...

my best advice...laugh a lot! My fiance and I try to just have fun. Even when we fight we try to break the tension by laughing at ourselves and it always helps. try not to take your relationship so seriously and everything will turn out ok : ) : ) : )

Ally W said...

Hi Bliss Girls!!! My TOP TIP is to be your own person in the relationship. Find things you love to do without your guy and make time for your friends. It keeps Mike and I really happy and we miss each other when we have our own girls or guys nights. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? xoxo Ally

Kimmie J said...

For the guys: always listen to your lady, she's right! If only it were that easy... :) Really though, communicate, communicate, communicate!! Sharing your thoughts, joys & concerns is very important to keeping your relationship solid and healthy! Thanks girls - love everyone's tips! :)

Anonymous said...

does not killing him when he doesn't do the dishes count? haha kidding! My best advice is to love passionately, deeply, and with forgiveness in your heart. love, Amy

Anonymous said...

I agree with Kimmie. Communication is key. Know that even though it might not be what you want to hear at the time, it will make your relationship stronger. Try to understand how your man feels and listen to what he says. Also try to work together as a team. =)
xoxox I love you bliss girls.

Anonymous said...

Here's my relationship advice: Take an interest in what he's interested in. It's something so little that can make such a huge difference. My guy absolutely loves soccer (or as they say it in his native country "football"). He knows all the teams in every country and nearly all the players names, not only is his favorite channel Fox Soccer Channel but he has BBC Sport set as his homepage on his computer. I was never keen on watching sports, but since it's something he loves i thought it was important to take more of an interest. So i started watching games with him and sometimes we even make a game out of it. He quizzes me on the players names and their numbers, which appeals to my competitive side. Not only is he impressed by my knowledge of football but he feels proud when i can sit with him and the lads and join in on the post match discussions. And ladies watching football ain't so bad, i've got two words for you: David Beckham :)

Ashleigh - A Blissful Bride! said...

I LOVE ALL THE TIPS! Bliss Brides are the best! My tip - just go back and read that steamy bathtub blurb...then do it! Mmmmm, tonight can't come soon enough... ;) Thanks Bliss girls, you're the best